Summary of passage: Dinah was visiting her friends in town when Shechem, the son of Hamor, saw her and raped her. He loved her and spoke tenderly to her and asked his father to get her for his wife.
So Shechem’s father came to discuss the situation with Jacob and Jacob and his sons were distressed over what happened. Hamor asked for Dinah to marry his son along with suggesting they all intermarry and settle amongst them. Hamor said he’d pay whatever bride price was asked.
3) No. First, it seems against God’s plan of having him settle in Bethel (Genesis 31:13). He is committing the same sin as Lot–settling near a pagan city with his young kids who are open to influence.
4a) Yes. She should have been forbidden to visit the women of the land alone and unprotected. We must remember this is ancient times where women had no rights and were often treated as animals. A woman alone could be taken by any man with no consequences.
b) Lists God’s will of having His people separate from the world and to touch no unclean thing or be yoked to ungodly spouses. Jacob should have made an effort to stay separate from the pagan Canaanites but he didn’t.
c) No. No apology. Nothing. But in that culture, Shechem committed no crime.
d) They seem to treat their women with more respect and they have influence in their lives. Jacob calls Rachel and Leah to him and asks them BEFORE he flees from Laban and takes away their father’s livestock (Genesis 31). Abraham drives out Hagar and Ishmael because of Sarah’s wishes, not his own (Genesis 21:10; 16:6). Rebekah schemed to have Jacob receive the blessing (Genesis 27), which was God’s desires. God revealed to Rebekah (Genesis 25:23) His will, and not Jacob.
5) Verses 9-10 is the devil at work. Hamor is tempting them to intermarry with the Canaanites and adopt their ways and culture and their gods. Although a ruse for their violent plans, Jacob’s sons suggested they become “one people” (verse 16), something which must have saddened God’s heart greatly.
Conclusions: This passage, as sad as it is, speaks volumes of ancient culture. It shows how women were merely objects to be possessed with no rights and how men could slaughter an entire village and get away with it with no repercussions whatsoever. Lawlessness, sinfulness, deceit–all in need of God and an order to life.
Even the whole idea of a bride price where women were bought and sold based on whims (and more likely a desire for power and alliances or what-have-you) which lasted up until modern history (and still happens in some cultures today) is very disheartening and sad.
I know that Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob showed a higher respect for women but it was no where near today’s levels or what it should have been. Just look at Leah and Rachel–a fight that destroyed the family all based on the pressure to bear sons (which was the primary goal of women). Very sad.
It’s very hard for us to understand what it must have been like 4000 years ago for Dinah or Rachel or Leah or any woman.
It reminds me to be grateful I do live in today’s society where I am able to type these words for all to read. Where my daughters can do whatever they dream of (as well as me). Where I have the freedom to marry whom I choose and not have kids if I choose. Where I can walk around without fear of what may happen to me. Where if I am violated, the perpetrator will be punished lawfully.
Where I am a person, made in God’s image, and just as precious as any man. And not just in God’s eyes. But in society’s eyes as well.