Summary of passage: At the cross was Mary, Jesus’ mother, his mother’s sister, Mary, Mary Magdalene, and John. Jesus tells his mother John is her son and tells John his mother is his now. John cares for Jesus’ mother from here on out.
8 ) John’s focus is on the more personal and how Jesus’ death affects those closest to him. He shows how even at death Jesus is thinking of others as he commissions John to care for his mother. John is focusing on individuals.
9) Personal Question. My answer: Jesus honored his Father and obeyed his Father to the cross, accepting the physical pain of death out of love for us.
10) Personal Question. My answer: I would grow closer to God and my life would be more joyful and fulfilling.
Conclusions: Would have liked to focus more on the women at Jesus’ feet and the disciple rather than on myself. And on how Jesus gave his mother into John’s care. How awesome!
End Notes: Mary must have been suffering almost as much as Jesus to see her son dying before her eyes. She had to have been weeping and calling out to God herself. All these women were there to support Mary.
This was the author John’s humble way to refer to himself in the story, as he does four times in his Gospel (John 13:23, 19:26, 21:7, 21:20). John told us that he was at Jesus’ crucifixion and saw these things with his own eyes (John 19:35).
Jesus never once thought of himself. It was always about us.
Jesus did not call Mary mother probably to spare her more pain. He also didn’t need to be specific. Both Mary and John knew what Jesus was asking of them.
We know Mary had other children with Joseph who could have cared for her into old age (Matthew 12:46-47, 13:55-56, John 2:12 and 7:3-10). Instead, Jesus chose John for the job. What an honor! Scholars speculate reasons for this: Jesus knew John would outlive his siblings. His siblings were not yet believers and Jesus wanted her with a believer. He did this to honor John who was the only disciple to stand at the cross of Jesus. He did this to show you can care for others outside of blood bonds. Who knows? It could be all of these reasons.
Great summary of who was at the cross with biblical references to try and reconcile the different accounts in the Gospels HERE