I got an email from a lady who asked me to quit posting my answers to BSF lessons. Why?
Apparently, her friend prints out my answers and doesn’t even bother to do the lesson herself.
At first, I was very angry at the email. It had insinuated that it was my fault that this lady has chosen to not do her lessons, to not listen to the Holy Spirit, and to cheat herself out of growing with God.
I emailed the lady back, explaining that what people do with this is up to them. But it is not my responsibility what this lady does or doesn’t do. She is doing this, not me.
I asked the lady instead of emailing me why doesn’t she confront her friend with her concerns. She wrote me a lovely email about the intentions of BSF. It’s a shame she didn’t share this with the woman who needed to hear it.
But don’t shoot the messenger here.
This one woman is probably not learning a whole lot. I’m sure she’s getting something out of the lecture but God won’t be prompting her to grow when she’s spouting off how I’m growing instead. Many of the questions are personal and meant to be such.
Why am I bothering posting this? First, I was pretty upset over it. I’m tired of people assuming I’m responsible for others’ behavior. No one takes responsibility anymore in today’s society. So if I stop posting, this will force the lady to do her own lesson. Ummmm…It’s obvious she doesn’t want to do it in the first place. I can’t force her to do it. Or there is something else going on. Something she is not sharing.
Secondly, I started analyzing my reaction more after sleeping on it. I was pretty angry. Still am–just a little though. Now I realize why: because I resent the lady who’s printing out all my answers and giving them as her own without thinking about it at all. It made me wonder if she’s even reading the passages.
If you haven’t figured out, I spend a lot of time doing these lessons. Typing them up, putting links up. It usually takes me many, many days to do a Lesson. Luckily for me, I’m ahead of you all so I can take the time I like to take. I have learned A TON. And I am proud of that fact. And I enjoy sharing my “Ah-Ha’s!” with you all. It’s what drives me in this endeavor.
I don’t mind you comparing and using these as a discussion group. Even printing out some of my answers OCCASIONALLY when you have had a harried week or a child has been sick or the dog ate your homework the night before. I get it: things come up. Or using my answers when you are stuck or have no idea what BSF is looking for (I get stuck too and I’ll say it when I am!). An answer here or there.
And many, many of you cannot attend BSF classes regularly for whatever reason. There are many legitimate more reasons as well for this site. Each of you come here for a different reason.
Please know I am not judging you all in any way. You all know I use every resource available to me in answering these questions. It’s my deep desire to understand what’s happening, the history around it, and to form a mental picture as clearly as possible so I can know Him more.
Please do not mistake my human reaction and my insecurities and overprotectiveness of my work as a judgment. I am merely explaining how I feel when people don’t try to do the lessons and every week before class hit the print button instead and use my hard-earned answers. This is not the intention of these postings.
I would like to encourage those of you who do not bother to do the lessons to please reconsider. If you know friends who are doing this, I would encourage you to confront them about it and challenge them to listen to the Holy Spirit instead of a flawed human being (that would be me).
Maybe this lady just needs help. Maybe she’s never studied the Bible before. Her confession to you might be her unconscious plea for help. Some of you BSF’ers are gifted in the Word and can help this lady who desires to know God but doesn’t know where to begin. This might be a whisper from God. You never know.
However, that being said, if you are not trying and have given up I am asking you to reconsider your study of Acts. Quit BSF if you have no intention of doing the study. Studying my study is not aiding you in any way. You are cheating yourself and God in this great opportunity BSF has given you to grow with Him. God has much more for you if you’d only give Him your time and effort.
BSF is not for everyone. These studies are challenging. They are for people who have a deep desire to know Him and His word and to grow in Him with the hopes of then growing others in the process and in the future. This study may not be for you if you are finding it too difficult. You may not be ready yet. Perhaps this is not your time. If you are have too much going on in your life to do the study, perhaps it’s time to take a break.
Of course, you can do what you want. That is your Free Will and when I post these lesson online they are there and I have no control over them after that (although they are copyrighted as my intellectual property as I have learned you can use these for your own personal use–just not for distribution and otherwise republishing them in any form as your own. That is copyright law).
But I will bear no responsibility in your not learning or not doing the study. That is yours and yours alone. And I will not cheat the majority of those who do use this site with the aforementioned intentions in mind in favor of the minority who do not.
Please pray about this and ask yourself why are you going through the motions if you’re unwilling to put in the work? Allow God to work in you. Trust me, you will be amazed what will happen in a short 9 months of study.
Please come here for support. That’s why we’re here. To help each other learn and grow with God. But nothing is free in this world except God’s love. He wants to know you so much. Please put in the time to know Him as much as He puts in the time to know you (unfathomable and infinite for us to grasp).
In the end, you will be rewarded (God’s promise).
I hope you all read this in the love it is meant and not in any judgment or condemnation. If you continue to hit the print button once a week, I will still pray for you. I will still love you despite my annoyance at your behavior (like any family member).
Please search your hearts. We are here for you. Reach out to others if you are struggling. God will lead you to the right people to help you.
Spiel over. Feel free to hit delete now.