parable of unmerciful servant matthew 19

BSF Study Questions Matthew Lesson 19, Day 5: Matthew 18:21-35


Jesus tells the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant when Peter asks Jesus how many times he should forgive his brother. Jesus answers with 77 and then tells the parable of a man who owed the king money. The king was about to sell his family to pay the debt, but the man begged him to be patient with him. The king forgave his debt and let him go. However, this man did not show mercy to a man who owed him money. When the king found out, he had him tortured and ordered him to pay back the money he owed. You must forgive your brother from your heart, Jesus says.

BSF Study Questions Matthew Lesson 19, Day 5: Matthew 18:21-35

13a) That he had the same person sinning against him repeatedly.

b) That he must forgive his brother 77 times.

c) To show mercy to others as Jesus shows us mercy every day.

14a) It’s important to realize when things are just petty and don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, especially in terms of eternity.

b) I find it hard to forgive those closest to me. The hurt is just too great.

c) My parents. Unsure. Call them. Visit them.

Conclusions BSF Study Questions Matthew Lesson 19, Day 5: Matthew 18:21-35

Jesus has done so much for us that it truly is little to forgive others and treat them as we want to be treated.

End Notes BSF Study Questions Matthew Lesson 19, Day 5: Matthew 18:21-35

At the time, the accepted standard was to forgive someone three times as set forth by the rabbis. Peter probably thought he was being extremely generous when he more than doubled this number — that is, until Jesus put him in his place.

Jesus’s answer means we forgive unlimited amounts of time.

Settling accounts was a common and regular practice in biblical times.

Ten thousand talents would be worth anywhere between $12 million and $1 billion in today’s terms. It was a huge debt.

The man would never be able to pay (so how he racked up that much debt in ancient times is unclear). The selling of his family was merely a drop in the hat for payment.

The other servant’s debt was about 100 days worth of work, which was a large amount, too.

Note the plea is the same, and the forgiven man turns a blind eye.

The forgiven man seems to have no regrets over his actions, which helps to explain the harshness of the king’s judgement.

Any debt someone owes us is insignificant in comparison to the debt that Jesus paid for us on the cross.

Forgiveness can be one-sided. After all, it’s for your benefit to forgive so you aren’t consumed with bitterness.

You must forgive with the heart, or it’s meaningless and worthless.

If you will not forgive,  you cannot expect to be forgiven.

Fun Fact: Matthew, a tax collector, records Jesus’s teachings on money found nowhere else in the Gospels. He also records Jesus’s words on how to treat the poor and the needy.

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leah has 4 sons by god's grace

BSF Study Questions Genesis: Lesson 19, Day 5: Genesis 29:31-35

Summary of Genesis 29:31-35:

God gave Leah children because she was unloved. Rachel was barren. Reuben was named because Leah was miserable, his name meaning “he has seen my misery.” Simeon was named cause she was unloved, his name meaning “one who hears.” Levi means “attached.” Judah was named for “praise” of the Lord.

BSF Study Questions Genesis: Lesson 19, Day 5: Genesis 29:31-35

14) Jacob to love her.

15) God shows us all kindness in difficult times. God shows kindness by continuing to be present, to guide, to lead, to be merciful, to forgive, and to give us hope through his son, Jesus.

16) She grows in her faith like we all do and realizes God is there for here when Jacob, her husband, is not emotionally.

17) God is faithful.

Conclusions BSF Study Questions Genesis: Lesson 19, Day 5: Genesis 29:31-35

I continue to be baffled as to why Jacob still sleeps with Leah besides the physical/procreation side. He knows Rachel is hurt by this, so why do it? Another sin since sex is meant as bonding as well as procreation. Sadly, sex is physical for all too many men today.

BSF notes takes the position that Jacob is fulfilling his duty by giving Leah an opportunity to bear children for status purposes. I can see this for maybe one or two kids, but to continue to have sex with her for all those years and watch his supposed beloved, Rachel, suffer heartache with each successive birth is nothing but selfishness in my eyes.

BSF Study Questions Genesis: Lesson 19, Day 5: Genesis 29:31-35

Here we see Leah forced into a marriage with a man who will never love her, and she suffers because of it, hated by her sister, Rachel, yet she can’t change it. It’s not like she could leave or get a divorce. God loves her as he blesses her with children, so important in those times.

Isaiah 54:5 “For the Maker is your husband — the Lord Almighty is his name…”

Reuben is the first born son of Jacob, yet he would not inherit the promise.

We see Leah’s hope shift to God instead of Jacob, which she would never have.

Note the priests (the tribe of Levi) and the royal line (the tribe of Judah) comes from Leah, as well as the Messiah (from Judah). Leah was blessed for her circumstances and for her faith, indeed.

BSF Study Questions Genesis Lesson 19, Day 5: Genesis 25:1-18

Summary of passage:  Abraham took another wife named Keturah and had more kids. He left everything he owned to Isaac but gave gifts to his other sons and sent them away to the land of the east.  Abraham lived 175 years and was buried with Sarah in the cave he bought from the Hittites.  God blessed Isaac who settled near Beer Lahai Roi.

Ishmael had 12 sons who became 12 tribal rulers.  He lived to be 137 years old.  His descendants settled near Egypt from Havilah to Shur as you go towards Asshur.  They lived in hostility towards their brothers.


12a)  Isaac got everything.  Ishmael got gifts before he died.

b)  Isaac:  Map of Beer Lahai Roi:

The sons of Ishmael all settled in Arabia as did most of the sons of Keturah.

13a)  Personal Question.  My answer:  Provided my husband with a job opportunity.  He’s given me a band to play in to keep my mind busy.  We are lacking for nothing for we have savings.  I keep getting the message that I need to write so I keep at it.

b)  Personal Question.  My answer:  Husband.  Kids.  Dog.

Conclusions:  I spent a little bit of time trying to find where the descendants settled but everywhere I looked it was all speculation as to the exact location so in the end I just linked to where Isaac settled since we’re going to be seeing a lot of him coming up and left the rest to Arabia.

I think every day is special as a gift from God and everything He provides is special.  So food, clothing, shelter, and another day to live and breathe are special gifts from God.

Does Beer Lahai Roi sound familiar?  It should.  It’s the place where Hagar encountered God in the form of “the angel of the Lord” as she was fleeing from Sarai and Abram in Genesis 16:14.  The name means “well of the Living One who sees me.”  Interesting that Isaac now ends up there.

Fun Fact:  Abraham is mentioned 70 times in the New Testament.  Only Moses is mentioned more.